Ever wonder how to stop comparing yourself to others? Then this Mindful Monday post is for you.
“The flower in the field is not comparing itself to the flower next to it. It’s just blooming.”
Are you blooming or are you too busy comparing yourself to others that you’re stifling your own growth and potential?
Over the weekend, I attended the inspiring Blog Brûlée
conference in Vermont (attendance was partially funded by sponsors) and I look forward to sharing with you later this week what I learned! During one of our group discussions over the weekend, Gretchen Brown of Kumquat
shared the above quote on comparisons with us, and well it got me to thinking.
Full disclosure: I totally struggle with comparisons. It’s hard not to compare in my field – a field of mostly women who are super hard-working, and love to share their successes on list servs, social media, and the like. But it’s not just other dietitians I find myself comparing myself to. It’s other bloggers – oh my stats don’t come anywhere close to hers
. It’s yogis – damn, she can do a handstand away from the wall.
And all of these comparisons do absolutely nothing but make us feel crappy and inadequate at the end of the day. They don’t make us feel loved, they don’t make us feel supported, they certainly don’t make us feel accomplished or worthy.
But we ARE all of those things.
We ARE loved. We ARE supported. We ARE accomplished and worthy of SO much. So how about we start treating ourselves that way?
It’s time to ditch the negative self-comparison talk.
And time to start acknowledging and sharing our OWN successes and gratitude.
Here’s my challenge for you today. When you notice yourself slipping away into a comparison coma, imagine your ol’ friend Kara saying, “ditch the comparison talk”, and then walk away from whatever it is you’re doing or looking at that brought you to the place of negative self-talk in the first place.
Then, break out a notebook or journal and write down 5 things you’re currently grateful for in your life and 5 personal or professional accomplishments you’re proud of.
And then share them! Share them here with me. Share them with your family, your friends, your cat. And re-read them as many times as you need to.
I practiced this exercise early this morning and I’ll share with you what I came up with (in the hopes you’ll share your gratitude and accomplishments with others).
Things I’m grateful for:
- For early, quiet mornings filled with a run outside or yoga, meditation, and warm lemon water. And no social media.
- For Steve supporting me 110% in anything and everything I want to do and encouraging me to do the things I’m scared to do.
- For being a part of a supportive like-minded network of healthy food bloggers & for the co-founders of blog brûlée for bringing us all together.
- Living in very close proximity to lots of green space.
- For my yoga teacher training this summer helping me to deepen my practice and awareness.
- Launched a new website & re-branded.
- Got my yoga teaching certification and taught my first corporate class last month.
- Started my own consulting business and private practice.
- Asked to join the Nutrition Entrepreneurs Executive Committee.
- My dark chocolate almond cookies were featured on the Kitchn.
What are you grateful for today? What are your recent proud moments? Focus on how far you have come, your personal journey, and celebrate that. Then, begin to celebrate the accomplishments of others, without comparison, but with genuine joy, compassion, and admiration.
Do this and watch yourself begin to bloom.