Hey guys…I originally planned to share a new recipe (well technically an updated old recipe) with ya’ll today but no one is carrying fava beans yet in Boston. Not even frozen, unshelled fava. Boo. But instead of leaving you hanging without a new piece of content this week before I leave on my trip, I decided to write about something that’s been on my mind for a while now. My true story about how I got into nutrition. The long, real version. Not the short, safe version I used to serve up in the past. And how using intuitive eating in my coaching practice has challenged me to look at some of my own thoughts and beliefs around food. You’ll see how intuitive eating changed my life, really. My true story about how I got into nutrition. The long, real version. Not the short, safe version I used to serve up in the past. And how using intuitive eating in my coaching practice has challenged me to look at some of my own thoughts and beliefs around food. You'll see how intuitive eating changed my life, really. A few years ago, I wasn’t owning my nutrition story. When people would ask me how I got into the field, I’d tell them I became a vegetarian at a young age and as a result had to learn about nutrition and how to make sure I was nourishing my body as a pre-teen veg. Later as I got older, I was introduced to alternative medicine therapies like homeopathy and naturopathy and I became interested in the idea of using food as medicine (more on that subject via guest post next week). And all of that is true – it’s not like I’ve been lying to everyone but that version is the short, safe one. Not the entire story.

So why was I hesitant to spill it all? Well, it all stems back to when I was a senior in college, majoring in nutrition and getting ready to apply for my dietetic internship (a DI is your clinical experience to become a registered dietitian nutritionist). We had some kind of DI fair where all the local DI directors came to talk about their programs and there were a couple lectures about the application process, essay writing, etc. And one thing they said hit me like a ton of bricks and I could feel the shame rising up in me.

“If you have an eating disorder or have had an eating disorder in the past, do not talk about it in your essay or application – you will not get matched if you do. And you should reconsider going into this field too – you won’t be an effective counselor…”

I stopped listening. I felt a pit in the bottom of my stomach. I started sweating. I felt so. much. shame. And in that moment I decided I would bury the story of my eating disorder so I could become a dietitian.

And the short, safe story lived on.

Until a year ago…

I’ve read a lot of Brene Brown over the last few years and she talks a lot about shame and owning your own story. And she says that in order to combat shame, you have to speak it. The more you keep it inside and let it harbor, the more it grows and takes over.

I was done harboring my shame and hiding behind my true story. When I was writing my e-book, Nourish Your Namaste, this time last year I decided I was ready to own my story about how nutrition and yoga saved me. To tell the whole story. The one that’s imperfect and real and beautiful. The one that’s authentically me.

And yes, it involved an eating disorder.

Growing up, I was always the shortest kid in my class. If I had a class to be in today, chances are I’d still be the shortest. And so when I put on some weight when I was ten years old (pre-puberty), I was subject to ridicule in school. Because now I was short and overweight. Girls were cruel. Like really cruel. Like whispering behind my back that they wanted to push me off a cliff cruel. I came home crying many days. And so that’s when I saw my first nutritionist. I don’t remember much of what we talked about in that appointment besides popcorn. Yes, I could still eat popcorn. It was on the “approved” snacks list. I loved popcorn. Phew. But what I do remember is that at no time did any health care professional tell me or my parents that putting on some weight pre-puberty is NORMAL and nothing to be concerned about.

A few years later, more overheard comments about my weight from family and friends, a new best friend with an eating disorder, a big life change of which I had no control over, and my own eating disorder was formed. I restricted my food intake. I lost weight. Too much weight. I stopped getting my period. This lasted about a year or so until one day I remember panicking, “Wait, am I not going to be able to have kids someday?”

And so back to a dietitian I went. This time because I was underweight.

I remember crying in her office. Feeling out of control once again. Thinking that the amount of food she wanted me to eat sounded insane. I felt defeated.

Luckily, the treatment coincided with me going to high school with a new group of friends, all of whom had very healthy relationships with food. I slowly started to heal, to eat what I wanted to eat without guilt, to mend my relationship with food, to rediscover satisfaction from food, to put the weight back on and to restore my period.

And so all of this backstory to say that THIS is the real reason I went into nutrition. I wanted to help girls like me who struggled with eating disorders and their relationships with food.

It wasn’t until I started my own business that I started to reconnect with my original passion for the field. I started coaching clients again and learned about the work of intuitive eating and all the sudden everything felt like it began to click. I started to feel fulfilled in my work again. Like the soul-warming, ultra-gratifying, fulfilled. Learning about intuitive eating also forced me to check-in with my own eating habits and to look more closely at the intentions behind my food choices.

Even though I’ve had a very healthy relationship with food since high school and never felt deprived of the foods that I love, it opened up my eyes to some eating patterns that weren’t totally intuitive. But before I share those with you, you might be wondering what’s intuitive eating (IE), anyways?

The super short version is that IE is eating based on your intuition. It’s eating based on hunger and fullness cues instead of a meal plan. It’s asking yourself “what do I feel like eating right now?” as opposed to “what should I eat right now?” It’s letting go of the diet mentality, ditching the scale and putting weight loss on the back burner. This work is about healing your relationship with food, rediscovering satisfaction from food and making peace with food.

I realized as a dietitian I had fallen into some “should” traps with my own eating. Maybe some of these will resonate with you:

  • I was eating according to the clock, not according to hunger. Not because I was on a meal plan, more so because I felt like I had to put in a certain number of work hours before taking a lunch break. But this is crazy because I’m my own boss and I can take a break whenever I want! There were days when I would feel gentle hunger pangs at 11am and think I can hold off until Noon so I can work one more hour. I wasn’t honoring my hunger! Now I don’t care when I eat lunch, even if it is only 11am. Not honoring your hunger is like telling your body you can’t pee even if you feel the urge. Your body is speaking to you and you have to listen. I often see my coaching clients not honoring their hunger or maybe not even able to feel hunger and this leads to binging and overeating later on.
  • I had my own set of “RD food rules”. Not the kind of “all or nothing” food rules that I see with my clients like all carbs are bad or I can’t eat anything with sugar but I did have my own food rules which I had to confront and check. One was that I wouldn’t order anything from Burger King or McDonald’s unless it was a salad. Every year, a couple times a year, Steve and I make the drive from Boston to Buffalo, NY to see family. It’s a straight-shot eight hour drive down the 90. And like most interstates, the 90 is studded with rest stops with fast food chains. In the past I would wait until a Starbucks or Fresh City to eat or get a salad from MD’s. But this drive in particular I felt the hunger pangs come on and the next rest stop had a Burger King. And I would have to wait another 40 minutes until the stop after that. I had to remind myself that ordering a value meal at Burger King, fries, soda and all, wouldn’t kill me. It wouldn’t give me heart disease or make me unhealthy. It would satiate and satisfy me. And whatdya know, I discovered that I didn’t even like the taste of BK’s French fries! Don’t get me wrong I loooooove French fries but these ones weren’t doing it for me. So I had a few and put them away. I see this all the time with my clients who forbid a certain food for a while – often when they try it again during the IE process, they discover they don’t even like it that much. But side note, I did really enjoy my lemonade + sprite mix 🙂
  • I was a slave to planned meals. I have a thing about food waste and I hate throwing away leftovers so I plan meals out to make sure that we’ll eat up every last bite of what’s left. There’s nothing inherently wrong with this except when I was leaving little room for flexibility. Sorry, Steve, no date night tonight, we have leftovers at home. Some exciting wife I was! IE challenged me to be more flexible again. Like when Steve and I spent an afternoon at Harpoon Brewery tasting beers and taking awkward Snaps, we went home and the last thing I felt like eating was the spicy peanut tofu bok choy rice bowl leftovers in the fridge. But what I really could go for was nachos. Because which one pairs better with beer? Hmmm bok choy or nachos? Nachos FTW! So I got flexible with my meal “plan”, realized the leftovers would get eaten eventually and satisfied my craving for nachos.

One of the beautiful things about IE is that there’s no such thing as failing at IE and you can’t perfect it either. So just as I remind my clients that this is life long work and it’s about the process, learning as you go, it’s a process for me too. Somedays I might push past hunger to finish a blog post. Somedays I might eat leftovers even if I’m not 100% in the mood for them. But that’s okay! IE isn’t meant to be followed as another set of rigid rules. It’s about flexibility and serves as a framework or guidelines, not rules.

So a very long-winded post just to tell you that IE has changed my life. It changed my life helping me to recover from my eating disorder at a young age (even though no one was calling it IE to me back then), it helped me rediscover my passion for my career in nutrition and it helped me put in check some of my own rules formed from being in the nutrition field.

Today, I am a better coach and dietitian because of what I’ve been through. It helps me to relate better to my clients, to cultivate more empathy and to have a strong passion to help guide them through this work. Because I know what it feels like to struggle with food but I also know what it feels like to rise up and celebrate food. And that freedom is what I want for all of my clients.

If you struggle with your relationship with food and would like to make peace once and for all, I’m currently seeing clients virtually via Skype as well as in-person in the Greater Boston Area. You can read more about my coaching services here: https://karalydon.com/coaching/

I’m arriving in Ho Chi Minh city today for a 3 week Southeast Asia adventure with my hubs. Vietnam was our original top pick for our honeymoon destination…until we realized September is their monsoon season. Hence, delaying the trip until now. We’ll make our way up the coast of Vietnam and spend some time in Laos as well. I’m going to try and disconnect as much as possible but you’ll still hear from me and I’ll try to post about my trip while I’m over there! Much love.

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  1. Rose Harwood-Acklie

    Nice. Just learning

  2. Hi Kara!
    I strongly believe in what you wrote up here! I don’t have an eating disorder, but I kind of live with a fear that some type of food will make me feel sick or will give me some weight or heart problems in the future. And that’s why I restrict myself from eating a MD meal whenever I am craving it (which happens 2 times a year) or drinking a glass of Coke when I’m feeling it.
    One other thing that I am concerned is that I impose myself dinner between 6-8 (even if I am hungry at 21 let’s say), as I think whatever I eat after will make me gain weight.
    What is your opinion on that? Is really eating at 21 in the evening that bad for you, if that’s the moment you are hungry?

    • Hey Cori, thanks for your question! I believe we should honor our hunger, no matter what time of day it is. Our stomachs don’t have an open/close time so we can feed it whenever we are hungry!

  3. Hi Kara,
    Thank you for your honesty. Interesting timing for me, because for the last 2 weeks I’ve written the most honest, scary posts on my own blog about my history with an eating disorder as well, and the path moving through it to body love and freedom. You might want to check them out at http://www.theradiantrebel.com (Part 1 and Part 2). It is important to know we are not alone in this journey! And It is great that women are showing up honestly in the world. Thanks!

  4. Wow Kara, thank you so much for sharing your story, so incredible! As an aspiring RD, I really appreciate your courage for explaining how your eating disorder helped push you on the right place in the field of nutrition. I struggle a lot with intuitive eating, mainly because I like routines. I’m starting to understand the importance of listening to my body, it’s just a long process but worth it!

  5. Nice post, Kara. Kudos to you for the courage to speak your whole truth.

  6. Elaine Magee

    I’ve been a “health comes in all shapes and sizes” type of dietitian for my entire career (30+ years) and have gotten lots of negative comments from fellow dietitians and people in the media because I’m a curvy woman and I don’t meet people’s “thin” expectations of a dietitian.

    Having loved several people who have struggled with eating disorders I have tried throughout my career to first do no harm–to hopefully not encourage disordered thought or eating through my work and publications but to rather be that other voice that promotes positive body image and having a healthy relationship with food.

    I applaud you for speaking your truth and I’ve found that being able to relate to people about their body image or food struggles can be very powerful. I only wish we were far enough along that you could have been honest in those internship applications!

  7. Rachael

    Oh my gosh Kara I just loved this post, especially reading about the ways you hadn’t been eating intuitively. That made me think a bit about my own eating over the past few years, how it’s become more intuitive, and little ways I’m still following food rules. Also, I think we are spirit animals because I had the exact same realizations about meal planning and fast food!

  8. I can so relate to all of this, Kara! I also was only sharing my shorter, safer story until recently because I was so afraid of being judged as a lesser dietitian and person due to my past struggles with food. I opened up on my own blog recently and Brene Brown is SO right, we need to speak our shame to get over it. So grateful for a community of RDs overcoming the stigma of eating disorders and disordered eating and spreading the power of intuitive eating and mindfulness. Thanks so much for sharing your story! 🙂

  9. Kara, so great that you’re sharing this story despite how you felt while in school. While I never had a diagnosed eating disorder, I for certain dealt with a low level of orthorexia without realizing it was a problem as a college athlete and a lot of that mentality stuck with me in my early RD years. It wasn’t until I started working with so many teen and college athletes struggling with body image that I realized it was okay to open up to them about my own food issues and still be the expert. I wrote about my carb issues finally on the blog last year and continue to try and incorporate intuitive eating more and more into my practice. I love that it’s gaining so much traction with RD’s I follow/know via social media and hope it will be covered in undergrad and internships in the future!

  10. Thanks so much for sharing your story Kara! I think a lot of dietitian’s got into the field in a similar way.