It’s hard to be patient in the technology driven world we live in where everything is at our fingertips with the click of a button. Read on for 5 simple steps to becoming more patient.
I know. I know. I promised a breathing technique to de-stress today on Mindful Monday. But I was being mindful of my sleeping beauty boyfriend who’s been out of commission with a viral infection all weekend. I didn’t want to wake him by shooting a video so alas, I take to the keyboard. Next Monday, I’ll hit ya with the breathing.
I struggle with patience A LOT. As a naturally achievement/accomplishment-oriented gal, I like to get shit done. And I like to get shit done right now (pardon my french). Not tomorrow. Not next week. Now. As in ain’t gonna wait.
So I struggle when things take longer than I’d like them to. Like starting my own business. I wanted to launch my website, have a handful of clients, make decent money, find work/life balance, oh and have my cake and eat it too all in one day. Okay maybe not one day. But two. Tops.
For reals though. Starting my own business was a HUGE test of my patience. Because building a business takes time. And building a successful business takes even more time. And I found myself with my eyes on the prize (the end goal) rather than enjoying the process along the way.
How many of you reach for the destination instead of enjoying the journey?
And the way we live our lives today doesn’t help matters on the patience front. We’ve got everything at our fingertips (thank you, Google). But our reliance on technology has set our expectations high. We expect things to happen quickly. And we’re constantly distracted, being bombarded with emails and texts and pop-ups and notifications. We’re always multitasking x100 and shifting our focus from one thing to the next.
This ain’t helping.
So, how do work on getting our patience back? Try out these 5 simple steps:
1. Practice waiting.
Practice makes perfect, right? Get used to waiting again. That’s right. Choose the longest checkout line at the grocery store. Walk into the bank and wait in line rather than choosing the ATM drive-thru. The more you practice waiting, the more you’ll be more equipped to practice patience in real-life situations.
2. Learn to let go.
Whatever is troubling you or making you feel rushed or stressed, learn to let it go. That girl in Frozen had it right. Rather than harp on whatever is troubling or aggravating and focusing on it to make it bigger, let it go. Move on. Letting it go will make it smaller and nonsignificant.
3. Be aware of what is making you feel impatient.
Be mindful of your triggers. What makes you feel rushed? What makes you feel frustrated or short-tempered? Write it all down. The act of writing it down is a good mindfulness exercise to help calm the mind. But identifying those triggers will also help you manage your patience level.
4. Practice breathing.
If at anytime you feel overwhelmed, you can always come back to the breath to ground yourself. Taking 5 minutes to practice deep breathing will help calm the nervous system and divert your attention away from whatever is troubling you.
5. Enjoy the journey.
A big goal takes time to achieve. So break down that massive goal into smaller goals/tasks and reward yourself for each step along the way. This will help you to enjoy the process, live in the moment, and give gratitude toward the journey.
Tell me, how do you work on becoming more patient?